How Do You Know When You’re Adulting?

by April on May 30, 2016

I recently turned 31, and cliched though it may seem, I still feel like I am either college age or close to it, not eight years past commencement. But then there are other times when I really like I am #adulting so hard, like this past week when I went to open my very own IRA and was talking about all sorts of investment stuff with this guy and nodding along because I actually understood about 70% of what he was saying. The other 30% of the time I was thinking to myself how glad I was that he was going to have to deal with getting my accrued money from my former employer’s retirement system, sucka!

If you read personal finance blogs or have ever read one of those Dave Ramsey books, you know that multiple income streams is the optimal way to gain more money over the course of your life, right? It makes perfect sense because if one thing fails, there’s a backup. I’m thinking of this IRA as another (very, very far in the future) income stream. It’ll be hanging out, doing some stock stuff (riskier), doing some bond stuff (not as risky), and hopefully churning upwards so that I’ll have it for later. And in the meantime, my finance guy was telling me, the initial amount I am putting in can be a little liquid in case I need it in a pinch, which I hope to not.

But also, once I am eligible to do so, I am going to get a 401(k) at my new job and put in the amount that they’ll match, so that I can take advantage of what amounts to free money (with the catch being staying employed there for however long it takes for it to stay mine), and boom there’s another (very far in the future) income stream, working for me. And THEN, should I leave this job in the future, I can take all of that money and chunk it in the IRA, giving them more money to make me more money.

It’s pretty exciting in a weird way to be like, “Yes, IRAs!” but it really makes me feel like I have a firmer handle on the wheel of my life. I might not be trading stocks like my friend Valerie, who I think is so smart and savvy for even knowing how to do it, but I have a guy doing something similar for me! And conveniently, his office is right near my CPA, another important person in my life who helps me with what can be confusing and annoying decisions, like “Is this tax deductible? Should I claim myself as an exemption?”

I think that’s one of the most telling way of knowing that you’re actually succeeding as an adult is knowing when to pay other people to help you live your best life because it means that you know your strengths and weaknesses and have no problem admitting what those are. I am weak when it comes to running numbers and analyzing what they mean. I am weak at filling out confusing, required government forms. And right about the point where I was feeling like a total winner, it was time to fill out my W4. Uh… if line 1 is more than or equal to line 2, subtract line 2 from line 1?

But again, I’m not above asking for help and finally figured the forms out. Next step… on to the new job.  And in all of those ways, I feel like I’m adulting pretty well, even if I do sometimes eat a bag of chips for dinner.

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If hanging out with Mrs. FDR isn’t grownup, I don’t know what is. 


Yes, it’s a real thing. It’s the whole name of this new restaurant located in a non-descript building that also houses a tire store on 378 in West Columbia. I saw the sign from the road the other day and within the week dragged Patrick there with me, all because of the hilariously long name. We stopped by on a Sunday evening when it was very quiet in there — in fact, we were the only patrons at the time.

saffron indian restaurant west columbia sc

One of the many questions I had about the place was if the cuisines were separate or if this was some sort of fusion. The answer is (thankfully) separate! The menu is mostly Indian, with a section of Chinese that is mostly appetizers and noodles, and a slightly larger Mexican section that includes appetizers, burritos, tacos, quesadillas, chimichangas and the like. Their Facebook page has photos of all of the menu options.

Another question I had was simply, why? Why all of those things together. The owner, whose name I forgot to ask for because I was super hungry, was also our server so I was able to get some insight. The answer is humorously simple: He has friends who are cooks that used to work in both Mexican and Chinese restaurants, and they wanted to work for him so… that’s why the menu is the way it is!

We wanted to try a little bit of everything but also didn’t want to overdo it, but we started off with two appetizers, queso, and spinach pakoras. A pakora is made by using gram flour to bread a vegetable of choice and then frying it, usually in a ball-like shape. It was a great way to get in some greens! It came with two dipping sauces, one spicier and green and a sweeter brown one.

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saffron indian restaurant west columbia sc

Our entrees came fairly quickly, mattar paneer for me, and lamb goat korma for Patrick.

saffron indian restaurant west columbia sc

Mattar paneer means peas cheese, but is a little more involved than that. It’s a stew of green peas, pureed tomato, chunks of paneer cheese, and spices, eaten with rice. I love all of those individual ingredients, and put together it’s very good. I’m no expert on Indian food but this take on it was excellent.

I couldn’t get much out of him on the korma except that it was good eatin’, but I had a taste of the sauce, and it was very creamy and rich, tinged with spices that made it a lovely shade of turmeric yellow.

Not pictured is a rose lassi, which is a yogurt drink, that I got to go. It looks like Pepto Bismol in color and thickness but obviously tastes much better. A lassi is a good drink to have on the table when eating Indian food, especially if you’re testing the limits of your spice tolerance. The casein proteins in the dairy help to soothe the feeling of your mouth set on fire much better than water, tea, or soda.

The only thing that I hope they’ll change about this place soon is moving to the use of real dishes rather than disposables, but this is still a fairly new establishment. It would make it much easier to combine the rice with the entree on larger, sturdier bowls or plates.

During the day (except Monday when they are closed) they offer a lunch buffet of Indian cuisine, which I hope to go back and try sometime soon. There are certainly enough options there to keep anyone satisfied even if they ate there exclusively for a month. Check them out for yourselves!

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